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I can’t help but think a woman’s moon cycle (menstrual cycle) is the most amazing, untapped resource on the planet!
I am reminded of this every time I bleed and release, shedding the lining of my womb like a serpent as I go into my own depths, my own darkness, with a deep faith and knowing that my springtime energy, enthusiasm and light is just around the corner. A woman’s cycle is just like the cycle of seasons, the moon, tides, breath, life… Every cycle we go through a winter, spring, summer and fall… only to come back around again. Just like the seasons. Just like the moon. Just like all of life. When a woman tunes into this in her own body, emotions and life, something miraculous happens that is so unique to her yet so universal to all of life. And especially when a woman learns how to work WITH and not AGAINST her own cycles, not only do life’s inevitable ups and downs become way more bearable (and predictable), she learns how to optimize her life around her cycle and therefore create space to THRIVE. This is not some new age-y woo woo bs. This is ancient knowledge that has been stripped from us for hundreds of years (#patriarchy), and thank GODDESS it’s making a huge modern day comeback. We can re-learn and ReMember this for ourselves, right here in our own bodies and cycles. We can observe the darkness, our winter, The Crone, low tide, the new moon as our wombs are shedding their blood. We can honor the need for space, quietude, reflection and doing nothing during this time. Fore when we do that, we receive our own deep intuitive wisdom - we literally are the temple embodied (this was originally why women didn't go to the temple during menstruation, and later religion and patriarchy twisted it into meaning something completely different). When we honor ourselves like this during our winter, we naturally and easefully blossom into the spring time maiden (and when we don’t honor the winter, the whole cycle can be disrupted and disharmonious). Observe the spring, The Maiden, she always follows winter – She is the emerging light, the rising tide, the waxing moon, the incoming breath! You’ll likely notice increased energy, mental ability and a desire to “get shit done” and also to play during this time. Yay! Honor that! Next observe the summer – maximum light, high tide, top of the inhale, full moon, ovulation! Perhaps you’ll observe a fullness in your being during this time, an overflow, increased empathy, compassion and desire to be with others, a willingness to give and serve, just like The Mother. And inevitably your summer fades into autumn – The Enchantress - reduced light, outgoing tide, waning moon, outgoing breath. Maybe in this time you’ll experience your wild, witchy, unpredictable feminine nature that’s often labeled as crazy, emotional, or PMS. Maybe you’ll notice your subconscious shit bubbling to the surface in this time – shit that in my opinion is so valuable, packed with information about what is coming up to be seen, felt, heard and expressed. When we simply cast this away as PMS or us being overly emotional, we are losing such an incredible opportunity to see what unresolved things we are carrying in our bodies, psyches and spirits. The Enchantress doesn’t judge, and has space for it all. And of course the cycle continues, and winter naturally comes, releasing what we no longer need, creating space for rebirth. How fucking miraculous is it that as women we have the opportunity to connect with these energies, these archetypes, directly in our own female bodies?! And how incredibly atrocious it is that we are conditioned to think of our cycles as messy, dirty, shameful, something so many of us wished weren’t there (even something that's being eliminated altogether with certain forms of The Pill). It’s my personal experience that when I began tracking, working with and honoring my own cycle, they got easier. I had less pain, less blood, less emotional ups and downs (or at least I learned to ride the waves better 😉 ). I started to honor and love my female body so deeply for the miracle that she is – and this came from the inside of me, directly from the parts of me that have been so shamed, shut down, and ridiculed for hundreds of years. The cool thing is, is that our bodies are living and breathing beings, with consciousness within, and this consciousness I’ve found responds SO favorably to the reconnection and loving relationship that can be built when a woman tuns into and honors her cycle (and there so many other amazing tools to work with also) Any woman can do this. Even a woman who is no longer menstruating (you can follow the moon’s cycle instead), and even transgender women (you can also follow the moon cycle and connect to your energetic womb).
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 Sisterhood!
I always encourage women to have their own jade egg and feminine self care home practice. But I also know that this work isn’t meant to be done alone. We need each other. Many women (all women!?) have wounding with other women from their family, peer groups and female lineage. When women come together in held, sacred and wide open space to celebrate, reclaim and rediscover their female bodies, something so incredibly beautiful happens. We naturally drop the stories, judgments, competition and comparison that we’ve been programmed into (#patriarchy). It’s replaced by a sense of safety, love and belonging. Shame melts away when we speak about the things we’ve never given a voice to. We’re able to heal and awaken much more deeply and quickly when we come together for this work, celebrating each other’s wins and clearing the shit together. In the last 5 years, I have been so blessed to do this work alongside so many incredible women, many of whom are my closest friends now. I absolutely without a doubt know that I would not be where I am now without this support and sisterhood. Besides supporting women to connect with and love their pussies, bringing women together in this is the mission of my work. This is ancient. There were times when it was so natural and normal for women to gather in red tents or other spaces to pass along deep feminine wisdom, and it’s making a big modern day come back. One of the main pieces of feedback I get in my group work is how deeply touching and refreshing it is to connect with other women in these spaces. To see another woman’s naked body and revere it. To hold another woman through her tears, and dance wildly with her in her wins. I’m in the process of creating an even deeper and more structured space like this for women, and I can’t wait to share more soon.  Empowerment
There’s so much talk about women’s empowerment and self-love these days. In my experience, a woman cannot feel fully integrated and in alignment with her deepest Truths if she’s neglecting/ignoring/rejecting her sexuality. The jade egg (and Tao) is a down and through path that naturally gives a woman access to her deepest truths, wisdom and intuition. The resulting grounding and empowerment does from the mind or outside herself – no, it's not from doing affirmations, reading books, seeking teachers, healers, doctors, or trainings, or finding it in her friends her partner - this is empowerment that comes from the deepest, rawest, wildest, perhaps scariest yet purist part of her. These parts also happen to be those that have been the most forgotten, the most shamed, ridiculed, objectified, ostracized, judged, and misunderstood. It’s time to reclaim our original essence, our erotic blueprint, the innocence and joy and pleasure of being alive in a female body. The world needs you. The jade egg deeply supports this process as it helps you to experience a level of connection to yourself like never before, deep healing (that can be simultaneous so fucking painful and so blissfully glorious), and wild, magical $exual awakening. A consistent jade egg practice can also clear massive space for you to thrive not only in sex, love and relationships, but in your overall life. This is the authentic empowerment women are seeking. Many women have never considered this until one day a light switch is turned on within them and they realize how disconnected or rejecting they are of their sexuality and femininity. So many women have the calling deep within to go to these places within their depths, but they lack of resources, tools or support, or they face the very understandable resistance that tends to arise when considering embarking on this path. Are you ready? I believe we’re at a point in human history where the calling to do this deep work is bigger than ourselves, fore how we relate to the feminine within is how we relate to it without – how we live, love, relate and tread on our precious earth.  Awakening
Oooh what a juicy and delicious topic! A woman’s sensual awakening can be one of the biggest joys and glories of her life! Women are not taught about their own bodies or pleasure growing up. It’s normalized for young and teenage boys to masturbate, while women aren’t encouraged to explore their bodies, vulvas, or the inside of their pussy. We’re taught we have periods (and fed a whole lot fucked up messages around them), and that’s pretty much it. Many women receive the subtle message that their pleasure exists first and foremost for someone else. We aren’t taught to own our pleasure as our birthright, as a source of creativity, energy, connection – life force itself. We aren’t taught about how our bodies are wired for pleasure – the clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings her sole function is P L E A S U R E. The jade egg wakes up a woman’s pleasure and orgasmic capacity from the inside out. How does it do this? A consistent jade egg practice sensitizes the whole pelvis and body. There are 5 major nerve groups that run from the brain through different areas of a woman’s sexual and reproductive anatomy. And what happens when you aren’t consistently feeling and paying attention to this part of the body? A lack of sensitivity, numbness, pain, difficulty orgasming, feeling disconnected or ungrounded… A jade egg practice drastically improves your level of presence and rooting into your yoni which over time makes you feel way more in this part of the body. It teaches you to relax with your $exual energy rather than tense around it (soo many women tell me they have tension and tightness in their yoni). Relaxed energy can be moved and spread more easily throughout the body, and the egg practice teaches you to feel, lift and circulate your creative life force energy through your whole body. This is excellent for healing, overall vitality, spiritual purposes, and massive increases in pleasure and even bliss. Physically, the jade egg trains the muscles in your pussy and whole pelvis to be strong and supple. This not only improves blood, oxygen and energy flow to your pelvis (which again makes you more sensitive), it improves orgasms – orgasms are muscle contractions and when you have strong muscles that can fully engage and release you have more pleasure (and, as a bonus, this is also preventative medicine for prolapse and incontinence, which thousands of women end up having hysterectomies for, ). Many women (myself included) go from being barely orgasmic from the clitoris only, to developing an ability to have g spot, deep vaginal, and cervical orgasms, and orgasms in any part of the body or any chakra. I know deep within my bones this is every woman’s birthright and I strongly believe every woman is capable of experiencing pleasure far beyond her wildest dreams with the proper healing and awakening work. A woman radiating and glowing with the deliciousness of her own pleasure is unstoppable! I believe a woman’s $exual energy is where true self-love, confidence, and the ability to go after her heart’s deepest calling is sourced. I believe this serves the well-being of women, men, humanity and the earth… for how we relate to the feminine and to the energy of life within ourselves is also reflected on the outside.  It healed my yoni from the inside out.
Like many women, I have a history of $exual trauma, including rape when I was a teenager and $exual assault when I was 25. Like many women, I kept this stuffed down for many, many years. And like many women, what I stuffed down had many layers of stored tension, shame, guilt, rigidity, sexual health issues (recurring yeast infections in my case), difficulty with orgasm, zero connection to my female body, relationship and emotional issues, and a cool, calm and collected attitude that I was “good.” I was not good. I was disconnected from myself, partners, friends, and spirit. I was disconnected from my desires, needs, fears and loves. Disconnected from my passion, purpose, tears, anger, sadness, laughter and joy. One day I realized I was carrying all this, and decided I didn’t want to live like that anymore. I found much healing in yoga, meditation, and self/spiritual development work, but I was still ignoring my $exuality and female body and deep down knew at some point I would have to face it. Then the jade egg (and other TaoTantric) practices gracefully came into my life. And oh boy, did things start to shift, big fuckin time. How did this happen? Well, I had been virtually ignoring womb, pussy, breasts - my female body – for my entire life (despite being very into yoga, which, ironically, did connect me to my body deeply, just not my female body…). So once I began giving space to these super powerful and important parts of myself, and holding everything that came up with loving acceptance and presence, things began to shift. I know you’ve heard it. What you resists, persists. What you feel, you heal. It’s true. I resisted my own female body – her pleasure, beauty, power.. her erotic blueprint, creativity, deep wisdom… her very own cycles and the magic inherent in that for SO long – and once I began to tap into all of this through work with the jade egg, TaoTantra, and my own intuitive wisdom… well, all my shit came up to be felt and healed. At that time I had developed a solid ability to hold myself, but I also sought a lot of external support to hold space for me. The Jade Egg creates space for women’s sexual healing by inviting her to go to the places she has not gone before. One simple example this works is every time you use your egg, you feel your pussy and ask her if she wants to receive the egg today. And you listen (trust me she will speak when you give her space). If she says yes, brilliant! If she says no, brilliant (you can do a whole jade egg practice with no egg inside and still get a lot of benefits). If she says maybe, brilliant (and then you can have a conversation with her to find out what she needs/wants, if anything, to feel a clear yes/no). This act, especially when done repetitively, is deeply healing for women. Most women haven’t gone to their yonis in ways that are truly restorative and healing because we’ve been subtly taught for years not to go there – the messages are it’s not safe, it’s not ok, you won’t be loved, you won’t belong, which equate to death to the subconscious mind. This shit runs so deep. Another reason I’ve found women don’t go there is simply a lack tools, resources and support. I’m here to tell you it IS ok – you can go there in ways that are safe, gentle, loving. You can find support so that you will feel held, loved and a sense of belonging (and even community and sisterhood) as you navigate these waters. PM me if you want more info. How does this all land with you? Comment below or send me a PM. If it's time for you to make the leap, check out my jade egg beginner's package on my website, and use the coupon code pussylove at checkout for 20% off Included is a jade egg, ebook, and 6 free meditations to use with the jade egg (including a special healing practice to release what no longer serves you in your feminine center).<3 http://www.thejadetemple.com/store.html **Disclaimer: The jade egg is a holistic tool, and it alone may not be able to heal all your shit, as we women carry a long lineage of sexual repression and abuse deep within our cells. It’s usually supportive for a woman to approach her healing journey as that – a journey. Some combination of jade egg/tao tantric work, coaching/mentoring/therapy, body/energy work, joining online courses/communities and live courses/retreats/trainings/immersions to do this work with other women is very effective. PM me for more info. It transformed and cultivated a new relationship with my female body.
Like most women, I was not taught to have a relationship with my female body. I was actually taught the opposite – to ignore, reject and criticize it; to subtly believe there was something gross, ugly, weird, and wrong with my lady parts. To believe I should be more like this and less like that. I was also taught my body and pleasure exist first and foremost for whatever man I happen to be with, and that finding and securing said man should be one of my main life goals. At some point, this all stopped working for me (it actually never worked, I just didn't have the awareness, tools and support to do anything about it for many years) Many women have self-care, self-development and spiritual practices, yet their female body is somehow excluded from this equation (this was also me for the many years I was a devout yogi and meditator). Many women haven’t even considered what a relationship with their pussy or female body would be like. Many women haven’t even looked at, let alone WORSHIPED their own vulva in the mirror. Many women have never touched the inside of their own vaginas. Many women touch their own or let their yonis be touched and/or entered before there’s a clear yes, or even when there’s a clear no. Many women do not take the time to talk to and listen to the deep messages that come from their womb and pussy. Many women force themselves into orgasm by squeezing, pressing down and holding their breath. Many women do not know the simple joys and pleasure of a sensual massage of their vulva with absolutely no agenda to experience anything in particular. I’ve experienced all of this, and have sat with hundreds of women who have said the same things to me, over and over again. The good news is all of this can shift and change, and I’ve found that the jade egg is one of the most amazing tools for cultivating a new relationship with your female body. The cool thing is that it works. When you show up for your female body, she responds. Chances are, she's been waiting months, years, lifetimes for you to show up for her. When you give her your loving attention and presence, when you create a space where absolutely everything is ok and welcome, when you revere her as your source of power, pleasure, intuition, wisdom and spirit, something deeply profound happens. She begins to wake up from the inside out. She heals, enlivens, comes to life, and empowers you beyond your wildest dreams…
There are many yoni eggs available today, and unfortunately some businesses have begun to sell eggs without proper safety standards in place. Many eggs are impure, bleached, fake, or manufactured improperly, making their use in your sensitive yoni potentially dangerous. So how to choose the perfect egg? Here are the three main things to consider before buying an egg.
Devote yourself to your yoni! Regular use of a jade egg will not only sensitize and cleanse your sexual organs, but it is one of the best tools for keeping your yoni toned and healthy as you get older. Like yoga, the egg is not something you practice once or twice and then forget about - it’s meant to be a lifelong practice. So invest in your yoni and yourself by choosing an egg you know you can trust - you will get literally decades of use out of it, and the healing properties of a pure jade stone will do wonders for your yoni and your life. |
Hilary KimballWelcome. I'm a Tao Tantric sex and intimacy coach, and I facilitate online courses, retreats, and trainings for women's sacred, sensual embodiment Archives
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